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minoanmissHaving MSN as my work launch page is bad for my soul but it delivers several advice columns. Content advisory: LW is extremely apprehensive about pregnancy. ( Read more... )
Jul. 9th, 2024
minoanmiss
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Jul. 9th, 2024 03:01 pmconulyDEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I grew up with my first cousin almost like she is my sister. Her house was two blocks away from mine. We were born two weeks apart, went to the same schools growing up, were in marching band together in high school, went to the same college, met our future husbands and got married within months of each other.
So you could say we have this kind of competition thing, because when I say we did all these things at almost the same time, sometimes she was first, sometimes it was me, but the other one of us was always right behind the other on purpose.
I found out I was pregnant in early April and three weeks later, guess what? She told me she too is pregnant. She said they had been planning this, but I say she can’t stand for me to beat her at anything.
Up until she heard I was pregnant, she told everyone she wanted to wait five years after getting married to start a family. Now she says I got pregnant at three and a half years in just to beat her, and I think she got pregnant now to not let me be the only one with a baby.
Can you believe anyone would get pregnant just to compete? --- CAN’T LET HERSELF LOSE
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So you could say we have this kind of competition thing, because when I say we did all these things at almost the same time, sometimes she was first, sometimes it was me, but the other one of us was always right behind the other on purpose.
I found out I was pregnant in early April and three weeks later, guess what? She told me she too is pregnant. She said they had been planning this, but I say she can’t stand for me to beat her at anything.
Up until she heard I was pregnant, she told everyone she wanted to wait five years after getting married to start a family. Now she says I got pregnant at three and a half years in just to beat her, and I think she got pregnant now to not let me be the only one with a baby.
Can you believe anyone would get pregnant just to compete? --- CAN’T LET HERSELF LOSE
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These reasons aren't missing, and yet....
Jul. 9th, 2024 08:39 pmconulyDear Annie: My son and I had a falling out a few years ago, right about the time he got engaged and was planning his wedding. I was blamed for not treating his fiancee nicely because I was once impatient at a dress shop. I bent over backward to be nice to her. The straw that broke the camel's back was at Easter, when I finally said something about the fact that his father and I basically were being ignored. That caused us to have a big blowup.
He accused me of not supporting him when he was growing up. He said I favored his sister and didn't spend enough time with him growing up. He said that I did not give money for their wedding and that I was constantly negative. I don't deny the negativity I was giving back when he was growing up; I was a young mother learning as I grew up with my children. I don't deny that I could be pessimistic, but I look at it as being realistic.
Yes, I have said some not-so-nice things to him, and as I look back, I know that I shouldn't have said them.
However, I wasn't even invited to the wedding, but his father was. Talk about a blow to the heart. My husband tried to be the peacemaker and talk to our son. He asked what I would need to do to get a second chance. I apologized for the things I said and did, but nothing seems to be enough.
Eventually, my husband told him that he would not attend the wedding unless I was attending. I was allowed to attend as long as I didn't cause problems, not that I would have, and he refused to have a mother/son dance with me. That really hurt me. Instead, he was dancing with his grandma on his father's side (my mother-in-law). We were included in some of the usual parental wedding things, but that was all. So our son has not spoken with us since then. Even then, it was strained. But the wedding was beautiful, and the celebration was very nice under the circumstances. -- Heartbroken Mom
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He accused me of not supporting him when he was growing up. He said I favored his sister and didn't spend enough time with him growing up. He said that I did not give money for their wedding and that I was constantly negative. I don't deny the negativity I was giving back when he was growing up; I was a young mother learning as I grew up with my children. I don't deny that I could be pessimistic, but I look at it as being realistic.
Yes, I have said some not-so-nice things to him, and as I look back, I know that I shouldn't have said them.
However, I wasn't even invited to the wedding, but his father was. Talk about a blow to the heart. My husband tried to be the peacemaker and talk to our son. He asked what I would need to do to get a second chance. I apologized for the things I said and did, but nothing seems to be enough.
Eventually, my husband told him that he would not attend the wedding unless I was attending. I was allowed to attend as long as I didn't cause problems, not that I would have, and he refused to have a mother/son dance with me. That really hurt me. Instead, he was dancing with his grandma on his father's side (my mother-in-law). We were included in some of the usual parental wedding things, but that was all. So our son has not spoken with us since then. Even then, it was strained. But the wedding was beautiful, and the celebration was very nice under the circumstances. -- Heartbroken Mom
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