I can see the future sometimes. I predict that your fantastic little niece is going to have other issues in the future, issues that your name-calling, bullying brother is going to ignore or be extremely wrong about. And when that happens, your niece is going to appreciate having an ally who is closer to her age and also related to her. So my advice is: keep a private diary (something like a google doc on an account that isn't left logged in) of the various crappy things your brother does that affect your niece. Speak up when you see something, both when it's just the adults and when your niece can hear that you're advocating for her. Write it all down, complete with dates and sober, factual accounts of what happened as well as your indignant reactions. Most importantly, don't compromise your access to your niece for the purpose of scoring points on your brother. This is so that when your niece finds living with her jerk of a father to be intolerable, living with Auntie Right might be on the table as an alternative to running away or whatever. And if your brother turns out to be neglectful or emotionally abusive, you'll have receipts.
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I can see the future sometimes. I predict that your fantastic little niece is going to have other issues in the future, issues that your name-calling, bullying brother is going to ignore or be extremely wrong about. And when that happens, your niece is going to appreciate having an ally who is closer to her age and also related to her.
So my advice is: keep a private diary (something like a google doc on an account that isn't left logged in) of the various crappy things your brother does that affect your niece. Speak up when you see something, both when it's just the adults and when your niece can hear that you're advocating for her. Write it all down, complete with dates and sober, factual accounts of what happened as well as your indignant reactions. Most importantly, don't compromise your access to your niece for the purpose of scoring points on your brother.
This is so that when your niece finds living with her jerk of a father to be intolerable, living with Auntie Right might be on the table as an alternative to running away or whatever. And if your brother turns out to be neglectful or emotionally abusive, you'll have receipts.