There were a lot of problems in Ex's and my relationship that led to our divorce, but the moment that really clarified that I couldn't stay married to him: He did something I wasn't terribly happy about, and I said "hey, I wish you hadn't done that, because reason." One sentence, maybe two.

He proceeded to spend twenty minutes lecturing me on the first of four reasons why he'd done the thing, and only stopped at twenty minutes because I finally said I needed to go to bed. I spent days in dread that he was going to come back and finish the other three reasons, which he'd written down so he wouldn't forget them. That was when I realized that there was no point in trying to make the marriage work.