Ah, I see what you mean, I was reading it a little sideways. You're right, the mother married money. If the money LW has has come from their father (I suppose there was a trust), then they absolutely should not lend Mom and Stepdad money or give them any more cash. They should also make it clear to the stepsiblings that they will help by direct payment of their tuition and they're on their own after that, so choose wisely.
Sounds like the mother and stepfather burned through anything she inherited from her husband.
Giving the half-siblings a chance to start life without student loan debt is a huge gift worth more than the mere dollar amount.
If this LW has not found a good therapist to work through their feelings about their mother, they really need to do that asap. They don't have a lot of healthy relationship models (grandparents, I guess?) and they need to work through their father's shenanigans and their mother's rejection.
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Sounds like the mother and stepfather burned through anything she inherited from her husband.
Giving the half-siblings a chance to start life without student loan debt is a huge gift worth more than the mere dollar amount.
If this LW has not found a good therapist to work through their feelings about their mother, they really need to do that asap. They don't have a lot of healthy relationship models (grandparents, I guess?) and they need to work through their father's shenanigans and their mother's rejection.