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agonyaunt2022-01-08 09:12 am
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Ask Amy: this calls for fake dating
Ask Amy: Happily single woman dreading wedding where family will try to set her up
Dear Amy: I am a (usually content) single 30-year-old woman.
My mother is getting married in two months.
She has already tried to set me up with her fiancee’s nephew (um, no), as well as a former employee (good guy but not for me).
Now her fiancé has decided that the wedding is the perfect time to introduce me to all his single co-workers (no, just no).
Add in all the well-meaning aunties asking me when I’m going to find a “nice man and settle down.”
I’ve started to dread this day.
My solution? Take my own date.
There will be no awkward set-ups if I already have a date. I’ll still have to field inappropriate questions from the aunties, but at least I wouldn’t have to face them alone.
Four months ago, I signed up for a dating app and have since been reminded why I’m happily single.
With the wedding only two months away, do I admit defeat and go solo?
I also feel that this wedding is not the best time for any prospective match to “meet the parents.”
Your ideas?
– Destined to be Dateless
Dear Dateless: I have a dim memory of seeing this basic plot in a Debra Messing movie … what was it called? Oh yes – (checks Wikipedia) – the “Wedding Date”. Debra Messing’s character hires a male escort to be her wedding date.
Hilarity ensues. Love blooms.
The obvious solution – at least to me – is for you to bring a (male or female) friend as your date, with the expressed intent that this person should serve as your wing-person. Their role would be to ward off random singletons, and if necessary, to use a serving platter from the buffet table as a shield to protect you from nosey aunties.
No matter what – keep a sense of humor about this annoyance. Having people try to set you up may make you feel as if you are somehow inadequate as you are (you’re not), but the intent is usually benign: People who equate happiness with being coupled-up think you’re wonderful.
Your problem contains the foundation for a pretty solid romantic comedy, so after the wedding is over, you might want to write it up.
Dear Amy: I am a (usually content) single 30-year-old woman.
My mother is getting married in two months.
She has already tried to set me up with her fiancee’s nephew (um, no), as well as a former employee (good guy but not for me).
Now her fiancé has decided that the wedding is the perfect time to introduce me to all his single co-workers (no, just no).
Add in all the well-meaning aunties asking me when I’m going to find a “nice man and settle down.”
I’ve started to dread this day.
My solution? Take my own date.
There will be no awkward set-ups if I already have a date. I’ll still have to field inappropriate questions from the aunties, but at least I wouldn’t have to face them alone.
Four months ago, I signed up for a dating app and have since been reminded why I’m happily single.
With the wedding only two months away, do I admit defeat and go solo?
I also feel that this wedding is not the best time for any prospective match to “meet the parents.”
Your ideas?
– Destined to be Dateless
Dear Dateless: I have a dim memory of seeing this basic plot in a Debra Messing movie … what was it called? Oh yes – (checks Wikipedia) – the “Wedding Date”. Debra Messing’s character hires a male escort to be her wedding date.
Hilarity ensues. Love blooms.
The obvious solution – at least to me – is for you to bring a (male or female) friend as your date, with the expressed intent that this person should serve as your wing-person. Their role would be to ward off random singletons, and if necessary, to use a serving platter from the buffet table as a shield to protect you from nosey aunties.
No matter what – keep a sense of humor about this annoyance. Having people try to set you up may make you feel as if you are somehow inadequate as you are (you’re not), but the intent is usually benign: People who equate happiness with being coupled-up think you’re wonderful.
Your problem contains the foundation for a pretty solid romantic comedy, so after the wedding is over, you might want to write it up.
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Where is ruin your family's thanksgiving Craigslist guy when you need him?
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Also, it's a wedding. Unless there are like 30 guests no one is going to notice if she leaves after dinner. Or before dinner.
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That serving platter had better be made out of vibranium.
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Bringing along a friend as a wingperson is probably the best option. There'll be no escaping the well-meaning but super-annoying questions of the aunties, but having someone there to back you up with "Oh, I can't go meet that boy that you've decided is perfect for me because I have a guest here that I can't abandon" would probably be extremely useful.