yeah. I have a friend who has a fetish for (unexpected class of people), and I find it cringey, but she's had good luck being honest upfront. Some people are into it, some aren't. But I'd be angry if I found out after the fact.

(Everything MM said about service jobs makes this a big old NOPE from me anyway, unless they meet in another context.)

ETA: MM is also right about psychic scars. It should just be a nope.