Kelly does come off really badly here, but I'd have a lot less sympathy if a) they weren't engaged, b) they weren't planning to have kids, c) he'd been really close with Sasha the whole time he was dating Kelly, or d) this wasn't going to involve a semi-permanent cross-country move for only one of them.
I think people would be a lot more sympathetic to Kelly if they were already married with kids. It *is* different when they're just engaged and don't have dependents. But presuming LW was wise enough to start out his dates going forward with "I really want kids, and soon" and only date people who agreed, I have a lot of sympathy for Kelly not being happy that he wants to move away from her and put all their future plans on indefinite hold for an ex he hasn't even been talking to much lately.
Don't get me wrong, I also have a lot of sympathy for LW but from Kelly's POV this is "an old school friend of my fiance's mentioned to him that an old ex of his was in trouble, and now he wants to drop everything and move cross-country for her, and thinks I'm unreasonable for acting like this is a lot". It's hard all around. But LW needs to really think about if he's willing to risk Kelly and the future they planned for Sasha's sake, and if he is, he needs to talk to Sasha about it, and if she agrees, the best thing probably would be to tell Kelly that he understands why she's upset but he needs to do this, and he loves Kelly but he's willing to take an official break from their engagement and then reassess once Sasha's gone if that's what Kelly needs.
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I think people would be a lot more sympathetic to Kelly if they were already married with kids. It *is* different when they're just engaged and don't have dependents. But presuming LW was wise enough to start out his dates going forward with "I really want kids, and soon" and only date people who agreed, I have a lot of sympathy for Kelly not being happy that he wants to move away from her and put all their future plans on indefinite hold for an ex he hasn't even been talking to much lately.
Don't get me wrong, I also have a lot of sympathy for LW but from Kelly's POV this is "an old school friend of my fiance's mentioned to him that an old ex of his was in trouble, and now he wants to drop everything and move cross-country for her, and thinks I'm unreasonable for acting like this is a lot". It's hard all around. But LW needs to really think about if he's willing to risk Kelly and the future they planned for Sasha's sake, and if he is, he needs to talk to Sasha about it, and if she agrees, the best thing probably would be to tell Kelly that he understands why she's upset but he needs to do this, and he loves Kelly but he's willing to take an official break from their engagement and then reassess once Sasha's gone if that's what Kelly needs.