Speaking solely for myself, when they found Round 2 (and just far enough away from the original site that it was Stage 4) I didn't have the energy to start contacting people outside my closest circles. I wasn't asking people who knew to keep it a secret, but I just could not bear the idea of having to manage the emotions of people I wasn't That Close To while I was still managing my own emotions around it, as well as being the one to take point on figuring out logistics and try to figure out the knock-on effects from treatment.

(My chemotherapist doesn't like to use the word "remission" in my situation, but I'm in the chronic disease with maintenance appointments every month and a half category at the moment, and not the wrapping up my affairs category.)

LW could potentially make a real difference in Sasha's remaining life by taking the extra money that they'd be spending on the small apartment and plane trips, or some percentage of it, and making sure Sasha doesn't have to worry about getting takeout delivered or getting a rideshare. My aunt and uncle did something like that for me, and that has earned them acknowledgment position #2 in my Everything I Know About Cancer, Personally book (right behind my partner). Along with my eternal gratitude. LW should check with a lawyer first, and make sure to make the gift in a way that would not fuck up Sasha's access to medical care.