Yeah, the "Ethicist" is really way out of their lane here. Talking about being respectful of trans and nonbinary people while othering the hell out of us and not actually consulting anyone about the bullshit in this advice. Every sentence of it is clueless nonsense - which puts them right at the same level of presumptuous idiocy as LW, who claims to be a "supporter of trans rights" but thinks this means gatekeeping and policing gender expression.

Because we really need more cis people making authoritative pronouncements about other people's pronouns and deliberating over who counts as sufficiently oppressed by gender norms to get pronoun-changing privileges. Those sure are supportive things to do. 🙄