When I saw "high-functioning" I wasn't sure if that meant "intelligent, competent, initiative-ful and able" or "autistic, or otherwise atypical" and I'm still not sure. Neither sounds natural to me, is what the author probably means clear to other people?
From the second interpretation my immediate thought was, the reason for doing chores is for the daughter to take on (some) fair share of combined household work, and to learn how to do necessary adulting skills. Something that no children know when they're born but usually pick up by the time their adult (with some lamentably common exceptions). Is it definitely the case that she knows and understands this and is refusing for arbitrary reasons? Or is it possible that that's so natural to LW she assumed the daughter would have picked it up, but that perhaps TELLING her would more surely ensure she knew and understood? I'm not sure how likely that is, presumably children who just need to be made to do things are more common, but I also think that generally, telling people the ACTUAL reasons to do something often has SOME benefit.
After all, most girls grow up with a high incidence of people being passive aggressive at them until they spontaneously decide that they would like to take on a bigger proportion of household work: in this case taking on the work is the right thing, but will she correctly generalise from that example to "mothers shouldn't have to do more than their fair share" and not generalise to "I should just go along with what people want me to do if they're insistent"?
Likewise, I'm curious about this "clever". As conuly says, it's not *very* clever. I wonder if it's like, a badly timed *early* foray into non-compliance. That's just speculation, but the fact that she got things so *weirdly* wrong and bragged about it, made me wonder if this is more fumbling than an average 16 year old (many of whom I might expect to just reflexively half-arse the job without particularly thinking about it.) Maybe she just needs to be told not to do that, but maybe she actually needs some practice at not being an arse when her mother is trying to help her, but knowing which instructions *are* over-stated and *should* be complied with only perfunctarily.
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From the second interpretation my immediate thought was, the reason for doing chores is for the daughter to take on (some) fair share of combined household work, and to learn how to do necessary adulting skills. Something that no children know when they're born but usually pick up by the time their adult (with some lamentably common exceptions). Is it definitely the case that she knows and understands this and is refusing for arbitrary reasons? Or is it possible that that's so natural to LW she assumed the daughter would have picked it up, but that perhaps TELLING her would more surely ensure she knew and understood? I'm not sure how likely that is, presumably children who just need to be made to do things are more common, but I also think that generally, telling people the ACTUAL reasons to do something often has SOME benefit.
After all, most girls grow up with a high incidence of people being passive aggressive at them until they spontaneously decide that they would like to take on a bigger proportion of household work: in this case taking on the work is the right thing, but will she correctly generalise from that example to "mothers shouldn't have to do more than their fair share" and not generalise to "I should just go along with what people want me to do if they're insistent"?
Likewise, I'm curious about this "clever". As conuly says, it's not *very* clever. I wonder if it's like, a badly timed *early* foray into non-compliance. That's just speculation, but the fact that she got things so *weirdly* wrong and bragged about it, made me wonder if this is more fumbling than an average 16 year old (many of whom I might expect to just reflexively half-arse the job without particularly thinking about it.) Maybe she just needs to be told not to do that, but maybe she actually needs some practice at not being an arse when her mother is trying to help her, but knowing which instructions *are* over-stated and *should* be complied with only perfunctarily.